Of all the online dating websites out there, I’d say Plenty Of Fish – POF – gets the worst rap.
Women complain about the jerks, scumbags and sleaze balls that troll around on that site looking for fresh meat like jackals in the wild.
Time would not allow me to tell you of the horror stories I’ve heard and read – guys posting “birthday suit” profile photos, obscene pickup lines and other gross, classless foolery.
So much foolery that POF is often referred to as POS.
Despite these discouraging tales, the shocking truth about the Plenty Of Fish dating site is that people are actually finding love.
Yep – people. are. finding. love. on. Plenty. Of. Fish.
Not just love – interracial love.
A few weeks ago we were treated to a video of David Mazur and Andrea Ellis, a Swirl couple who met on POF and won a $100,000 grand prize toward their dream wedding.
We’d be happy for any couple who won, but we have to admit that we were especially happy that a Swirl couple won that huge prize. They represented – not only for POF, but for Swirl couples worldwide.
Not Convinced? We’ll Make A Believer Out Of You
We posted a question on The Swirl World’s Facebook page and asked our fans if they used POF.
In light of POF’s bad reputation, the results were surprising.
Meet Chassitie and Josh Thornton.
They met on Plenty Of Fish.
Here’s their story in Chassitie’s own words:
My husband and I currently live in Fairbanks, Alaska – his current duty station. In Fall of 2014 we will be moving to Yelm, Washington (his home town) for our next duty station – Fort Lewis.
We have been together for 13 months. We officially met the day after my birthday.
We currently have no children at all but would like to start our family when he returns from his current deployment. We want at least 3 children (I want five though! lol).
How They Met
It was a few days after I moved to Fairbanks, with my best friend, from my hometown in California. We met through a message on POF.com. It was a social website for people trying to find friends or a date. My overall goal was friends. I grew up in a small town in northern California and was a tomboy who always hung out with the guys. So having just moved I wanted to make some friends.
I wrote him telling him about having just moved and that I was looking for friends to hang out with and hike, play video games or watch movies with. He wrote back. We talked for a day or two about our hobbies and interests and then I gave him my number. We made plans to hang out, but never got around to an actual day. Then for some reason I can’t remember I just stopped talking.
Then came my birthday. I was out getting my hair done when he texted me to wish me a happy birthday. It was then that I asked him if he wanted to hang out – I wanted to look at outdoor gear and camping stuff.
So the next day he came and picked me up. We went to the Sportsmans’ Warehouse and walked around for a bit talking about outdoor stuff and camping trips and things we wanted to do.
I don’t know when exactly it happened but sometime within the next 24 hours I knew we couldn’t be “just friends.”
So we started dating.
Their Defining Moment (When They Knew They Were In Love)
Chassitie: I knew I loved him a little over a week after we first met. We spent every moment that he wasn’t at work together. I knew I had feelings for him before then but later I was certain I loved him when we took our first shower together. We just held onto one another. I felt so comfortable and so safe and so secure. And I’ve never felt like that with anyone before.
Josh: My wife and I have this thing we do where we reminisce on the moments of our relationship, and one of the questions that comes up is when I knew I loved her. The answer is always the same. I knew I loved her the moment we met. But she was the first to say it.
What They Like Most About Each Other
Chassitie: I love his sensitivity, his softness, his strength, his understanding and his patience. But above all, I love that he is family oriented. Family is the biggest priority in my life.
Josh: Her strength. Our first year of marriage was hard because we faced – I faced – a few personal hardships. But she was always there for me, she was my rock. She always knew exactly what to do or what to say to make me feel better and put a smile on my face.
The Advice They Would Give To Others
Chassitie: My biggest piece of advice would be, Don’t be afraid to take chances or step outside your comfort zone.
Josh: Just be yourself. I never tried to impress my wife. When we first met I was wearing Wranglers and a t-shirt.
More To Come
For those of you who are still skeptical, we have something for you: More couples.
Stay tuned; the next three couples we’re featuring have something in common besides their Swirl status:
They all met on Plenty Of Fish.
We’ll share some of their vetting tips, and they’ll tell you how they managed to navigate the shark-infested waters of
POS POF and find the love of their lives.
In the meantime, for some “Come to Jesus vetting tips” we wholeheartedly suggest that you check out Eugenia Berg’s Married Girl In A Weird World blog.
Eugenia did an awesome series entitled “Dating In The Age of Dumba$$es – Online Dating” Vetting Redux.” Click here for Part 1 and here for Part 2.
Join in the Fray: Are you currently on an online dating site? Which one(s)? What have been your experiences?
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