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3 Reasons Why a Woman Needs a Ride Or Die Chick

July 10, 2013 By Michelle Matthews-Calloway 7 Comments

FRIENDS

I know a lot of hoopla is made about how “impossible” it is to trust women.

Women are described as catty “rhymes with witches” who will stab you in the back the first chance they get, throw you under the bus, steal your man, hate on you and undermine you . . . yadda . . .  yadda . . . yadda.

Now, I’ll be the first to admit that from infancy I’ve always had more – and stronger – relationships with boys/men than I had with women. (Blame my Dad and 2-brothers-no-sisters family for that).

And yes, I’ve experienced at the hands of women just about all of the things I’ve listed above – except the “steal yo man” part, even though Lord knows some have tried.  (That’s another post).

Even more disheartening is the theory that Black women definitely can’t be each others’ friend.

Well, I’m calling B.aloney S.andwiches on all that.

No assessment of a group is all-inclusive. Exceptions always – yes, always – exist.

A few women in my life fit the bill of those women who can be trusted.

Why does a woman need a “Ride or Die” Chick?

  1. No woman is an island. I don’t care how self-sufficient you are, you don’t live in this world alone. The time will come when you will need someone, and what better someone than a Ride or Die Chick – even if that Chick is your Mother.
  2. A Ride or Die Chick is someone who is tried and true. You don’t have to worry about what she will or won’t do, because your relationship is established enough that you already know. You don’t have to watch your back when she’s around – because you know she’s covering you, and vice versus.
  3. You need a Ride or Die Chick because life is so much better with one than without one. If you have one, you know exactly what I mean. If you don’t, see #1 above.

I don’t have a lot of Ride or Die Chicks, because if you have one, maybe two good ones, you don’t need any more.

Today, I celebrate one of the truest friends I’ve ever had. I celebrate one of the very few women I can say has been a “thick or thin” friend to me. Someone who doesn’t try to change me, accepts me as I am and loves me in spite of me. She’s proven her loyalty time and time again, and has been a backbone to me during some of the lowest points of my life.

Happy Birthday, Cynthia. Love you, Girl!

Happy Birthday, Cynthia Hargrave!

Happy Birthday, Cynthia Hargrave!

May you live long and continue to prosper. Thank you for being my friend.

Join in the Fray: Who’s your “Ride or Die” Chick (or Dude)?

I’m blogging every day in the month of July in Blogher’s NaBloPoMo Challenge. Thanks for reading, and feel free to comment!

Copyright © 2013 Michelle Matthews Calloway, ASwirlGirl™, The Swirl World™, All rights reserved.

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About Michelle Matthews-Calloway

I'm a native Louisianan currently living in Dallas, TX. I have a B.S. degree in marketing, an MBA and a PhD in higher education administration. I love writing and research, and also thoroughly enjoy reading and working out.

I am passionate about cultural/ethnic diversity and interracial relationships; so much so that my dissertation focused on these concepts. I'm a widow, and I started dating interracially a few years after my husband passed away. In addition to blogging about interracial relationships and social issues, we also provide a podcast available on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Sound Cloud and Stitcher.

You can also find me on Twitter or Instagram @ASwirlGirl.

Do you love vintage photos and history with your pop culture? Them come and join me and Podcast Co-Host Adrienne London Leach on Facebook at Facebook.com/TheSwirlWorld. If you love our military, come and show our warriors some love at Facebook.com/Military Swirl.

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Comments

  1. mswilliams says

    October 24, 2015 at 10:06 PM

    Look at my beautiful mother. Indeed a blessed WOMAN! Sis Calloway I LOVE and Miss You!!!!!!

  2. A Swirl Girl says

    July 12, 2013 at 9:16 AM

    Natalie,

    Aww, thanks! I will certainly tell Cynthia you said Happy Birthday.

  3. Natalie White says

    July 12, 2013 at 1:03 AM

    I am in tears. This is so awesome! You are very blessed to have Cynthia in your life. Tell her I said Happy Birthday Day!

  4. A Swirl Girl says

    July 11, 2013 at 1:00 PM

    Jeff, how nice! Cynthia certainly is a stunner – and she towers over me in height. She’s beautiful inside and out! I’ll be sure to pass on your sweet words.

  5. A Swirl Girl says

    July 11, 2013 at 12:57 PM

    Karla,

    Our backgrounds are similar in that we’re both military brats. I didn’t get my RODC’s until I was an adult. I had some great sorority sisters in college, but those 5 . . .10 . . . .15 . . . and 20+ year friendships forged after that time. I have a couple of guys who I count as ROD, but you’re right, for the most part men come and go. I couldn’t love Cynthia or Jackie more than if they’d been my flesh and blood sisters.

  6. EarthJeff says

    July 11, 2013 at 7:54 AM

    Happy Birthday Cynthia! May I politely point out, Maam, you are very lovely. And if you are a pal of Michelle, then you are almost certainly an awesome person as well. Enjoy your day!

  7. Karla Fears says

    July 11, 2013 at 6:11 AM

    I’ve always had a ride-or-die chick (RODC) by my side from the time I could talk and introduce myself. My first ones were Gloria McKinley and Kim Young. They were my neighbors and best friends. Since I was a military brat, I tended to move, a lot, so my chicks were dear to me. I had a posse in high school; we were the “smart” girls, the nerdettes, if you will. Today, my tried-and-true RODCs are Margaret, with whom I’ve been friends for 27 years (that’s half my lifetime!) and LaTonya (16 years and going strong!). My male friends have come and gone (except for my husband, who is my bestie) but my girls have stuck by me through thick and thin. They are my sisters from another mother.

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