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Swirling With Latin Men: What to Expect

May 3, 2013 By Michelle Matthews-Calloway 25 Comments

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I’ve received some queries in the inbox concerning Swirling with Latin men.

Shucks, I wanna know more about that myself!

Guest blogger Miranda Santiago gives us the inside scoop:

Oh yes. You’ve seen them on TV or in the movies or on stage. Latinos!

Who can blame you for being love struck? With their perfect complexion, dark hair and irresistible accent no woman in her right mind would want to pass on such a man. Besides, you’ve heard they are very family oriented and hold to strong traditional values.

Well, before you race off to corral one of your own, let this Latina fill you in on what to expect.

Latinos come from a culture that places a lot of emphasis on the man taking the lead in a relationship where the woman is dependent on him. This is not always the case but it is the culturally handed down norm. Let me fill you in on some of the specifics.

What frightens them

Latinos are often intimidated by successful women. The men feel they must be the breadwinner. It is a cultural expectation, a generations old custom instilled in boys from a young age. All of their traditional role models are of men that make the money and of women that stay home and cook the dinner.

If you are a successful woman who has the earning power to take care of yourself, watch out. Your Latino beau may at first seem indifferent to your earning power, but later in the relationship it may become an issue.  However, thankfully in this country that stereotype is being broken down one successful woman at a time.

This is not to say that all Latin men are machistas. That is, not all of them buy into the custom of being tough and in control. However, masculinity is important to them. But thankfully, as time passes men are becoming less bound to those old expectations.

What they like

Before you take the initiative and make the first move – Stop. That Latin eye candy you’re fixating on will prefer being the one to make the first move. However, don’t let that stop you from dropping those flirtatious signals.

Very likely, your Latino man grew up with women who were very supportive of him, sometimes passionately so. He will expect the same from you. When he talks to you about something in his life, he expects your support and not necessarily your advice.

He will like someone who reminds him of his mother. Being family oriented on your part is a big plus. If you want this relationship to move to the next level, you should want children, because he will.

Family matters

That Latino man you have your eye on was likely raised in a large extended family where he has plenty of female relatives which he will compare you too. Family is very important, so if you are dating a Latino man expect to be around his family as well. His relationship with his mother is very close. It would be to your advantage to get on her good side. But also remember that he will very likely compare you to his mother.

Latinas are very supportive of their sons and brothers; so cultivating a close relationship with the women in the family is important. You can expect to spend a lot of family time together.

There you go. This is what you can expect from dating a Latino. Enjoy!

 

Miranda SantiagoMiranda Santiago has a degree in Psychology from Boston College and is now a freelance writer who covers dating topics, specifically Latin dating. Apart from writing, Miranda enjoys windsurfing, playing the piano and cheering on her favorite baseball teams.

 

 

 

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About Michelle Matthews-Calloway

I'm a native Louisianan currently living in Dallas, TX. I have a B.S. degree in marketing, an MBA and a PhD in higher education administration. I love writing and research, and also thoroughly enjoy reading and working out.

I am passionate about cultural/ethnic diversity and interracial relationships; so much so that my dissertation focused on these concepts. I'm a widow, and I started dating interracially a few years after my husband passed away. In addition to blogging about interracial relationships and social issues, we also provide a podcast available on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Sound Cloud and Stitcher.

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Comments

  1. ElenaDariya1 says

    November 16, 2015 at 8:58 AM

    It is very difficult to meet soul mate, life has no meaning without love 
    On the other hand, many married people are disappointed and divorce nowdays.
    dating to right person must be really difficult.
    I tried online dating on http://www.meetsouls.com and http://www.angelreturn.com also http://www.erisdating.com
    but no luck so far.

  2. Shateece says

    July 13, 2015 at 4:08 AM

    How to date a Latin guy

  3. www.oduk.pl says

    May 16, 2015 at 4:04 AM

    An impressive share! I’ve just forwarded this onto
    a friend who was doing a little homework on this. And he actually bought me dinner simply because I discovered it for him…
    lol. So allow me to reword this…. Thank YOU for the meal!!
    But yeah, thanx for spending time to discuss this subject here on your website.

  4. Sabeen says

    January 12, 2015 at 11:22 PM

    I’ve always had crushes on Latino/Hispanic boys and still do. I currently have a crush on my coworker who is Hispanic and he fits this description, but he has a girlfriend. How can I get him interested in me and maybe hopefully go out with him in the future?

  5. armando says

    December 8, 2014 at 3:03 PM

    It’s nice to hear what you guys have to say about us latin guys. I do, however, find it hard to believe that this is a generalized mindset. I have been living in the US for about two years now and haven’t had any luck with the ladies. The times i’ve tried opening doors, getting the check, payed someone a compliment, etc, the response i’ve gotten have been far from nice. I don’t know if i just don’t fit the hot latino image girls expect or if they’re just not interested in latinos in general. I have yet to meet a latino/non latina couple yet. It is quite frustrating to see that and think race might be the issue. Either way, reading your blog gives me hope.

  6. Internet Money Path says

    September 12, 2013 at 12:34 PM

    I love what you guys are usually up too. This sort
    of clever work and coverage! Keep up the very good works guys I’ve incorporated you guys to our blogroll.

  7. Delaney Diamond says

    June 1, 2013 at 11:24 PM

    Hi Danielle,

    You’re welcome to drop me a line at delaneydiamond @ ymail.com.

  8. Danielle says

    May 29, 2013 at 5:18 PM

    Yes it is Delaney! I’m sure you have an email account but I wasn’t sure where to look to send you an email…

  9. Delaney Diamond says

    May 26, 2013 at 2:41 PM

    Thanks, Danielle! Hope you enjoy the books. Isn’t it nice to have options?

  10. A Swirl Girl says

    May 26, 2013 at 1:24 PM

    Hi Danielle,

    Welcome to the blog! I’m so happy you’re here. I like the fact that Latin men are often men of faith – that’s important to me. I’d love to hear more about your swirling adventures – feel free to comment on anything you see. You can also submit a guest post or suggest topics of interest. Hit me up at ASwirlGirl@TheSwirlWorld.com anytime!

  11. Danielle says

    May 26, 2013 at 1:05 AM

    Great post! I’m new to this site so I have to share my thanks:

    Miranda—Thanks for sharing your insight about the Latin men that we love! I live in California and there is no shortage of fine Latin men here! In addition to what you shared, many Latin men are men of deep faith in God so if your a sista who is a woman of faith as like I am well that’s a great match! I”m full-figured as well and many Latin men love that!

    Delaney–thanks you for writing your novels! I’ll go get one and enjoy reading some good fiction about the wonderful BW/LM swirl that we love!

    Michelle–thanks for your wonderful blog! Black women like you who make blogs like these are a godsend to other sistas who are proud swirlers!

  12. The Anti-Swirl says

    May 5, 2013 at 9:00 PM

    Oh, YES, we MUST vlog on this subject, we REALLY must!!!

    *Los Eye Roll*

    Do we actually need more Chick Chat in here? How about a seminar on The Proper Preparing & Serving of the Classic Ham Sandwich to Your Black Man? Oh, and Sanitizing the Remote During ESPN Commercials?
    Now, THAT’S some needed stuff!

    Ha!

  13. TheSwirlWorld says

    May 5, 2013 at 4:35 PM

    La Belle, thanks so much for reading and commenting! I don’t mind the “take charge” aspect, as long as it doesn’t become too controlling. I really like the idea of a man wanting to be protective and take care of things – I believe that is a WONDERFUL trait!

  14. La Belle Negresse says

    May 5, 2013 at 2:53 PM

    Great info! I’ve dated a few Latin men and I must agree, they like to take charge… which for me, is a good thing.

  15. A Swirl Girl says

    May 4, 2013 at 11:24 PM

    Eugenia, thanks for commenting! I think you should do a vlog on this subject – speaking from a BW’s perspective (HINT HINT!). 🙂

  16. Eugenia says

    May 4, 2013 at 4:44 PM

    I dated some latino men back when I lived in Texas and went to college. I had a good time, they were very traditional but always great gentlemen. But yes ladies need to be okay with a guy leading, whether it be in life, restaurant or dancing they do it. But I always loved that they loved their families so much. Great post.

  17. TheSwirlWorld says

    May 3, 2013 at 9:16 PM

    “The fact that “family-oriented” and “strong traditional values” falls into the “Besides” category speaks VOLUMES about the expectancy levels of the average female reader.”

    Actually, it doesn’t. Readers of this blog know what’s important; the swarthy good looks is just the icing on the cake.

  18. TheSwirlWorld says

    May 3, 2013 at 9:08 PM

    Hi Delaney,

    Thanks for commenting! Feel free to send an excerpt and author’s profile, and I’ll be happy to feature you on the blog/ We have quite a few readers who enjoy IR romance novels. Send me an email at ASwirlGirl@TheSwirlWorld.com if you’re interested in sharing with us.

  19. TheSwirlWorld says

    May 3, 2013 at 9:01 PM

    Gynger, you’re absolutely right! It’s great to have an “inside” view. Knowing these things also helps a woman to decide if Latin men are her cup of tea. 🙂

  20. The Anti-Swirl says

    May 3, 2013 at 11:04 AM

    “…With their perfect complexion, dark hair and irresistible accent no woman in her right mind would want to pass on such a man. Besides, you’ve heard they are very family oriented and hold to strong traditional values…”

    El Sigh…

    El Deep Sigh…

    El Eye Roll…..oops, wait a minute, that’s LOS Eye Roll (why doesn’t this blog support the use of italics?)…

    Well, here ’tis once again your humble servant Anti-Swirl, coming to provide the (as usual) much-needed dose of reality to this site…

    Huh?

    No, I am NOT about to criticize this guest post. It is well-written, interesting, and informative.

    See?

    So why am I writing, you ask?

    Merely to point out one simple, salient, and suggestive fact (Sesame Street was sponsored today by the letter “S”), to wit:

    “…With their perfect complexion, dark hair and irresistible accent no woman in her right mind would want to pass on such a man. Besides, you’ve heard they are very family oriented and hold to strong traditional values…”
    The fact that “family-oriented” and “strong traditional values” falls into the “Besides” category speaks VOLUMES about the expectancy levels of the average female reader.

    I won’t even MENTION (there goes that frazzlin’ lack of italics again…drat!) what fell into the “Right Mind” category….

    Ha!

  21. Delaney Diamond says

    May 3, 2013 at 10:28 AM

    Hi Miranda,
    I love Latin men and they’re the heroes in my IR novels. My dating experience is similar to what you’ve said, but I don’t mind traditional men. Quite enjoy it, in fact. Lol.
    Thanks for giving us the scoop!

  22. Gynger Fyer says

    May 3, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    Great post. good information. I love my Latin men so it’s good to know how their culture influences their dating.

  23. A Swirl Girl says

    May 3, 2013 at 9:44 AM

    Jeff, great question! I’ll have to ask her – or have her come on and comment! 🙂

  24. EarthJeff says

    May 3, 2013 at 7:48 AM

    So just which baseball teams are Miranda’s favorites?

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