Have you been around on Facebook or the inter-webs for the past couple of weeks?
If so, then you’ve probably seen a few “what would you do” posts. For example, the posts about men saying they want to take a woman out on a first date. (Only if they take her out, doing so will “hurt them financially” for the remainder of the month).
Um, how sway?
Can you say, “struggle love?”
Our Facebook page has been popping with lively discussions on the pros and cons of struggle love.
I must say, the majority opinion of those weighing in has been mostly con. However, we’ve also seen comments from a few readers who are pro about dating men who are “struggling.”
And here’s the thing: a Black woman is known more than any other ethnic group for her loyalty and ability to “stand by her man.”
Unfortunately, it’s often to her own detriment.
This sense of loyalty is often to a Black woman’s detriment because she suffers from what our Adrienne London-Leach refers to as:
Compassion Syndrome
Here’s Adrienne to explain.
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Nia says
You’re right. I got into a heated debate in a Facebook group about that same hypothetical. The post said the guy waited until an hour before the date to say he was broke and could he cook for her at his house cause going out would hurt him in the long run financially. The excuses these women made were ridiculous.
“He could have money in savings but not want to touch it so I can understand that.”
“Nowhere does it say it’s a first date.”
“Just cause he invited me over dont mean he wants sex. Every man isn’t trying to have sex with you as soon as you enter the house.”
Sad, desperate women making excuses for bs.