So yesterday we discussed the fact that having to “kiss a lot of frogs” seemed to be par for the course in the quest to find true love.
We said we believe that frogs don’t have to get in the way – The Swirl World is home to some pretty amazing people who simply need to meet each other.
Now that we’ve gotten all the housekeeping done and all the disclaimers out-of-the-way, we’re happy to introduce our first Swirling Single Of The Week: Ms. Traci Milam!
Traci, tell us about yourself.
I am 35 years old, and I live in Memphis, TN. I currently teach History in my local public school system. I am open-minded; I love studying and learning about different cultures.
I am an honest, genuine woman. If I give you a smile and a compliment I truly mean it. I will appreciate the right guy for who he is. I want my feminine power to compliment his masculine power.
How do you approach relationships?
For me, doing little things are important; leaving notes for him just let him know that he’s in my thoughts. Speaking his “love language,” and willing to learn what makes him feel loved – making sure there is a balance of partnership to the relationship.
I am compassionate and a great listener. I think that this is a major part of maintaining a healthy relationship. I will support my partner, keeping the lines of communication open so that we can have those important conversations. I want to be able to read his moods, understand his concerns, and NOT make fun of his insecurities. Sometimes showing empathy is all that’s needed.
I want to disagree in a respectful manner and remember that differences of opinions don’t have to crush the relationship.
I love to laugh am constantly finding the humor in life. Laughter is at times the best medicine for what ails you.
Tell us about your family.
I am close to my family. We see one another at least once a week. We have a lot of fun together sharing…laughter can often be heard throughout my parent’s house when everyone visits.
I love going out with my two older sisters or just spending time sitting around shooting the breeze. My nieces and nephews are a joy to spend time with. I regularly attend their sports events, spelling bees, etc.
My parents are a true blessing in all of our lives. They are also hilarious. I often, tell my friends that my family should have their own reality show LOL!
What do you like to do for fun?
I love traveling, visiting museums, going to live concerts and shopping. I’m a real FASHIONISTA!
I also love to dance – I was a competitive pom-pom dancer in high school. I danced for my college team and for an NFL team.
What are your tastes in television and music?
One of my favorite TV channels is the History Channel. I’m historian after all! I also love Modern Family and Big Bang Theory.
Musicians that I like: Prince, Lauryn Hill, Beyoncé, Gwen Stefani, Lady GaGa, Maroon 5, Stevie Wonder, Marvin Gaye, Erykah Badu, Kelis, Pink, Outkast and The Roots.
Would you like to have children?
Children: I would like maybe to have one child.
Are you willing to relocate?
If the right person comes along I would, of course, discuss relocation as an option.
So Traci, what are you looking for in a mate?
Someone who is genuine: A man who is honest with his partner and willingly shares how his day went and asks about mine in return. A man who gives a woman a genuine compliment to her face rather than wolf whistling. One who says “Please” and “Thank you,” and means it.
A man who is just kind to others and not just for his own self-interest.
A man who is Good-Hearted: Kind and generous; romantic and family oriented.
Getting to know her parents and actually taking the time to earn their trust and approval. (Some people think that asking them for permission before proposing is outdated, but I still believe in it.)
Someone who won’t mind sending a little message to make sure I got home alright, and actually mean it, or bring flowers, just because – no need to wait for a special occasion.
Possesses emotional Intelligence and is very supportive – He leaves the lines of communication open so that we can have meaningful conversations. He tries to understand my concerns, and does NOT make fun of my insecurities.
A man who argues in a respectful manner and remembers that differences of opinions don’t have to crush the relationship.
Intelligent and supportive: Knowledgeable of general world events and able to converse in a socially acceptable manner. College educated would be great but I also absolutely love a man in uniform – military man, police officer, firefighter, etc.
And, of course, I am willing to support his dreams as long as the risk is viable. We will be a team, partners – us against the world!
So there you have it! If Traci seems like a lady you’d love to meet, send an email to Profiles@TheSwirlWorld.com.
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